Fraternity e-mail sent to Ayers and others results in probation

Published: October 1, 2009, 12:00 am ET
Collegian Staff

The University of Richmond placed the Kappa Sigma fraternity on one month of social probation on Sept. 16, after one of its members unintentionally sent a sexually explicit e-mail this summer to various faculty, staff and administrators.

While on probation, the fraternity cannot register lodge events or socials.

The e-mail — which was sent on July 6 and meant only for the members of Kappa Sig — describes in detail the student’s Fourth of July weekend events and begins with the greeting, “Hey Pledgefucks.” Included in the e-mail was the recounting of one frat member, who “slayed” — slang for had sex with — a Westhampton College student. The e-mail specifically named two WC students.

The Collegian is not printing the student’s name because of the topic’s sensitive nature. An e-mail sent to the student was not immediately returned Wednesday.

Among those who received the e-mail were: President Edward Ayers; Steve Bisese, vice president for student development; Alison B. Keller, director of Greek Life; Al Lane Jr., manager of Custodial and Environmental Services; Timothy Mihalcoe, an investigator at the University Police Department; and other faculty and staff members.

No one was able to explain why the e-mail was accidentally sent to non-Kappa Sigma members.

The student sent out another message 12 minutes later and issued an apology to those who had accidentally received the message.

“Please disregard the last e-mail contents received from me,” the student wrote. “It was only intended for a few close friends, however SPAM created a longer list from another e-mail chain. My sincere apologies to all that are offended by some of the language, it was an accident.”

Less than two hours later, Keller replied to the original e-mail.

“One could say that I should never have received this e-mail,” Keller wrote. “Well, I did and unfortunately, it tells more about the men who call themselves KS [Kappa Sig] than I would like to admit. Needless to say, this is disrespectful in every sense of the word.

“This is not the type of men we want to be representing or even calling themselves fraternity men, let alone Kappa Sigma’s and University of Richmond students — and I am sure Kappa Sigma fraternity, would agree.”

Kappa Sigma headquarters and the Richmond chapter adviser were notified immediately, Keller said. A phone message left for Phillip Hoff, a recruitment manager at Kappa Sig headquarters in Charlottesville, Va., was not immediately returned Wednesday.

Last October, the campus chapter’s recruitment officer sent an e-mail that included graphically explicit language encouraging recruits to come to fraternity parties and bring freshman women so they could “get a cock thrown in em by whoever.”

Because the e-mail this summer was a repeat incident of a similar topic, the Greek system got involved, Keller said.

At the beginning of the semester, Greek Life informed members of Kappa Sigma that they would have to form a plan to change the internal culture of the fraternity. Members of the InterFraternity Council and Panhellenic Council would then review the plan and modify it, if necessary, Keller said.

On Sept. 16, the fraternity turned in its plan. Members of IFC and Panhellenic Council gave members of Kappa Sig feedback and made modifications to the plan, Keller said.

IFC and Panhellenic Council members also made the decision to place Kappa Sig on a one month probation. Members of IFC and Panhellenic Council are not at liberty to divulge what occurred during the meeting, she said.

Chris Lucas, president of IFC, and Melissa Mitchell, president of Panhellenic Council, declined to comment.

John Frey, president of Kappa Sigma, said members of the fraternity were addressing the matters very seriously.

“We are working diligently to respond appropriately and effectively with the decisions that were reached last Wednesday, which was inclusive of chapter and Greek Life community input,” Frey said.

For such a negative situation, it was a very positive experience, Keller said. She said she thought the Greek leadership did an excellent job handling the situation.

“I feel like there is an understanding of being a Greek member in a way that they’ve never been before,” Keller said.

After speaking to administrators, Keller said she had not heard much feedback from the Richmond community since.

Abigail Cheever, an English professor at Richmond, accidentally received the e-mail. Cheever did not understand how this could happen again.

“The specific behavior of a few people should not be used to condemn a larger group,” Cheever said. “But it is also increasingly hard to do, especially since that group itself seems unable to influence the attitudes and behaviors of a minority of its members.

“At the very least, it is apparent that the efforts made last year to educate the campus as a whole, and the fraternities in particular, about the importance of respectful interaction among members of our community have not been successful thus far.”

Members of fraternities and organizations are held to a higher standard and are placed under a microscope, Bisese said.

“When you do something individual like that, when you’re a part of an organization, it affects the whole group,” said Bisese, who was not involved with the disciplinary process.

Susie Reid, director of operations and maintenance, also received the e-mail. Reid — who is involved in weekly inspections of the lodges with members of fraternities and Keller was surprised by the language of the e-mail but said she knew that most of the members were good guys.

“[They] have fun goofing off with one another and it was obvious that was the intent of that e-mail,” Reid said. “Yes, it was in poor taste and disrespectful, but the guy obviously didn’t mean for it to go to all the people that it did.

“Unfortunately, many students probably have these very same conversations. They just don’t show up in everybody’s [e-mail] inbox. While I may sound sympathetic, I hope the guy learned a lesson from this.”

It sounds as if the students took restructuring their fraternity seriously, Bisese said. He said he hoped the decisions made would make the system stronger and make students better at policing themselves.

“I think that one of the things overlooked is that they really do take responsibility for trying to do the right thing for reputation, safety and taking a part in policing themselves,” Bisese said. “For the most part, they are really good people who are strongly dedicated to always making themselves better.

“I don’t think that in my years here, or years in student affairs, that there are going to be many judicial-type decisions that everyone agrees with. I am glad to see that whatever the decision was, was heavily debated and heavily facilitated, discussed and decided upon by students with advice by an adviser. I like that the spirit was not, ‘The administration is going to tell you what to do.’”

Contact staff writer Nick Mider at nick.mider@richmond.edu

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  • An Alum

    These guys just can't keep their feet out of their mouths…

    • Randy

      Don't think that cliche carries over to electronic media. Nice try, though.

      • An Alum

        It's not like I have an axe to grind with them or anything. I just don't beat around the bush.

  • 30 Days = Worthless.

    One month is harsh. I think they've learned their lesson. </sarcasm>

    When they re-open, the lines will long, as always, with girls who don't care that their vaginas are practically currency to Kappa Sig guys…

    Please. Go to any other frat but them.

    • this comment = worthless.

      i am a girl. i go to kappa sig. and my vagina is not currency, thank you very much. in fact, they're great guys. so if you don't actually personally know them, you really don't have the legitimacy to make comments like this.

  • Just a Guest

    When you consider the consistent failure rate of frat guys to actually “throw a cock in whoever” it really makes this whole situation much more harmless.

  • Concerned student

    Three things.

    This happened in July. It is now October. I do not appreciate that the University waited this long to inform the students. I hope that there will be a public announcement, courtesy of University officials, that will address this lapse in keeping the college community informed. Perhaps the University had a legitimate reason to keep the news from spreading, but I cannot image what it could be.

    I applaud Nick Mider for the thoroughly informative report. However, why could not the Collegian 'break' the news? In fact, how did the paper come to learn of it now? Were you (the reporter) provided a public statement from university officials? Or did your investigation unearth the details that you have presented in the article? Whatever your answer. thank you, and keep up the good work. I do, of course, recommend that the Collegian set aside a branch that will devote itself to investigative reporting. I am certain that there will be many journalism students who would be eager to inquire, rather than just report.

    A month's probation for sending an e-mail parading the carnal exploits of Kappa Sigma men to the Mr. Ayers, of all people, seems overly lenient. Furthermore, this a 'repeat' incident. I do not know if the letter sent out affects me negatively in any overt manner, but I feel dejected knowing that the University will have adopted a much harsher stance were they prosecuting me for twice sending graphic e-mails to faculty and deans. I am saddened by these double standards.

  • Anonymous

    My faith in the Collegian has been challenged time after time during my tenure at the University of Richmond. This article serves as a personal reminder that one ought to avoid relying on the media as a means of attaining accurate information. While the ‘Concerned Student’ applauds the author’s investigative reporting, I can’t help but feel as if something stood between him and the truth behind the incident and the resulting sanctions. The information provided is not only vague, but appears so skewed I don’t think I would have the heart to get upset over the ‘incident’ simply because of how unjustly Kappa Sigma has been treated, both by the press and by the administration.
    Nonetheless, I am left to wonder if the girl who was ‘slayed,’ evidently ‘slang for had sex with,’ that evening was:
    1. So inebriated that the guy took advantage of her
    2. A nymphomaniac, or
    3. In a sincere relationship with her ‘slayer.’
    Of course, why take all of that into consideration when you can just leave your reader to assume whatever he/she prefers.
    I am sure the author’s decision to keep it anonymous will prevent her from being self-conscious about it. If not, will the Collegian foot the bill for therapy sessions?
    I don’t mean to be overly critical, but how did this pass by the editors?

    While I do understand this is the second offensive e-mail published by Kappa Sigma, who could forget the maelstrom the first one created this time last year, I still am at a loss about a few things regarding a few things.
    I guess you could call me an individualist, but I don’t think it is justified to prohibit an entire fraternity from an active social life because one student’s distasteful e-mail was broadcast to a number of people who were never supposed to see it. One would assume that by the time he was able to send out the second e-mail he was considering taking up residence in a whole in the ground. Given that the incident happened on July 6th I wonder how the rest of his summer went. I don’t know who the kid is, but I bet he learned his lesson about sending out explicit material pretty quickly.
    The University of Richmond isn’t in the business of teaching lessons though. Preferring instead to ‘discipline and punish.’
    Is anyone else upset about spending $50,000 a year on this high school?
    I am also a little skeptical of the decision to use IFC as a means of reaching a verdict concerning how the group should be penalized. The Council, composed of members from other fraternities, sounds like a great way to inhibit the activity of their rivals while furthering their dominance on campus during the first few weeks of school. During the first month of school many naïve freshmen are persuaded to pledge in spring semester having familiarized themselves with the members, ideals, and, most importantly, parties of one group. As if contending with the unreasonable administration isn’t difficult enough, now we have to defend ourselves against competing peers.
    I don’t want to say IFC is, by its very nature, is corrupt. But it is.
    I have an ardent distaste for relying on institutions in order to solve a problem if people are able to do it themselves. I believe the women on this campus can positively impact fraternal culture and should do so, but don’t blame them for their ambivalence. There is little they can do currently because, as my friend Kanye might put it, “The University of Richmond hates Greek women.”
    The illusion that Greek women at Richmond actually have a voice at Richmond was upheld during the preceding. Members of the Panhellenic Council, in addition to IFC, deliberated over the issue at hand. While I don’t understand quite yet why sororities exist on campus, I am perplexed by their members’ inaction – particularly at this time. Women in Greek life are held to a much higher standard of participation regarding meeting attendance and philanthropic activity; despite having no lodge to call their own. I can’t imagine how offended some of these women might be about the context of the e-mail, but the school has structured itself so that women here are reliant on “chauvinistic” fraternities if they hope to have a social life on the weekends. Perhaps if they were provided with the ability to designate where the debauchery would take place every Friday and Saturday night, they would be more willing to voice how disgusted they were by ‘getting a cock thrown at ‘em or whatever,’ instead of remaining passive and going to whatever lodge has the shortest line. Girls on this campus aren’t going to stop showing up at these parties if denied an increased presence on the weekends.
    My hope is that all of this will promote a worthwhile dialogue on campus. I hope it isn’t further stinted by administrative figures who hope to contain the issue by demanding those involved adhere to a policy of secrecy. I really hope no one was offended, but if you were speak up, ask questions and demand resolution. Clearly the Collegian won’t provide you with information, but it is your God-given right to know what the hell is going on around you.

  • Allen

    A month for an unfortunate accident, seriously? The first email is a different story, but I won't get into that. Has anyone read the feature “Text Hall of Shame”(meant to be funny, not a literal Hall of Shame) in this very newspaper? A lot of people talk this way amongst their friends in JEST… Are we now expected to be politically correct robots amongst our friends too?

  • ChainsThemselves

    My faith in the Collegian has been challenged time after time during my tenure at the University of Richmond. This article serves as a personal reminder that one ought to avoid relying on the media as a means of attaining accurate information. While the ‘Concerned Student’ applauds the author’s investigative reporting, I can’t help but feel as if something stood between him and the truth behind the incident and the resulting sanctions. The information provided is not only vague, but appears so skewed I don’t think I would have the heart to get upset over the ‘incident’ simply because of how unjustly Kappa Sigma has been treated, both by the press and by the administration.
    Nonetheless, I am left to wonder if the girl who was ‘slayed,’ evidently ‘slang for had sex with,’ that evening was:
    1. So inebriated that the guy took advantage of her
    2. A nymphomaniac, or
    3. In a sincere relationship with her ‘slayer.’
    Of course, why take all of that into consideration when you can just leave your reader to assume whatever he/she prefers.
    I am sure the author’s decision to keep it anonymous will prevent her from being self-conscious about it. If not, will the Collegian foot the bill for therapy sessions?
    I don’t mean to be overly critical, but how did this pass by the editors?
    While I do understand this is the second offensive e-mail published by Kappa Sigma, who could forget the maelstrom the first one created this time last year, I still am at a loss about a few things regarding a few things.
    I guess you could call me an individualist, but I don’t think it is justified to prohibit an entire fraternity from an active social life because one student’s distasteful e-mail was broadcast to a number of people who were never supposed to see it. One would assume that by the time he was able to send out the second e-mail he was considering taking up residence in a whole in the ground. Given that the incident happened on July 6th I wonder how the rest of his summer went. I don’t know who the kid is, but I bet he learned his lesson about sending out explicit material pretty quickly.
    The University of Richmond isn’t in the business of teaching lessons though. Preferring instead to ‘discipline and punish.’
    Is anyone else upset about spending $50,000 a year on this high school?
    I am also a little skeptical of the decision to use IFC as a means of reaching a verdict concerning how the group should be penalized. The Council, composed of members from other fraternities, sounds like a great way to inhibit the activity of their rivals while furthering their dominance on campus during the first few weeks of school. During the first month of school many naïve freshmen are persuaded to pledge in spring semester having familiarized themselves with the members, ideals, and, most importantly, parties of one group. As if contending with the unreasonable administration isn’t difficult enough, now we have to defend ourselves against competing peers.
    I don’t want to say IFC is, by its very nature, is corrupt. But it is.
    I have an ardent distaste for relying on institutions in order to solve a problem if people are able to do it themselves. I believe the women on this campus can positively impact fraternal culture and should do so, but don’t blame them for their ambivalence. There is little they can do currently because, as my friend Kanye might put it, “The University of Richmond hates Greek women.”
    The illusion that Greek women at Richmond actually have a voice at Richmond was upheld during the preceding. Members of the Panhellenic Council, in addition to IFC, deliberated over the issue at hand. While I don’t understand quite yet why sororities exist on campus, I am perplexed by their members’ inaction – particularly at this time. Women in Greek life are held to a much higher standard of participation regarding meeting attendance and philanthropic activity; despite having no lodge to call their own. I can’t imagine how offended some of these women might be about the context of the e-mail, but the school has structured itself so that women here are reliant on “chauvinistic” fraternities if they hope to have a social life on the weekends. Perhaps if they were provided with the ability to designate where the debauchery would take place every Friday and Saturday night, they would be more willing to voice how disgusted they were by ‘getting a cock thrown at ‘em or whatever,’ instead of remaining passive and going to whatever lodge has the shortest line. Girls on this campus aren’t going to stop showing up at these parties if denied an increased presence on the weekends.
    My hope is that all of this will promote a worthwhile dialogue on campus. I hope it isn’t further stinted by administrative figures who hope to contain the issue by demanding those involved adhere to a policy of secrecy. I really hope no one was offended, but if you were speak up, ask questions and demand resolution. Clearly the Collegian won’t provide you with information, but it is your God-given right to know what the hell is going on around you.

  • Name

    First of, to punish the entire fraternity for this incident is blatant absurdity, and the administration needs to rethink their actions before they start slapping the whole school with sanctions. I was one of the original recipients of the email and can state firmly that there was no mention WHATSOEVER of any incidents or problems involving the Kappa Sigma fraternity. The email was a narrative of a weekend in the summer, when school was out of session, among a group of friends, not a frat event. The only reason Kappa Sigma was associated at all is because the accused's email tag said the frat name in it, that's it. Enough of this guilty by association BS, if we bombed every country that had a terrorist living there we'd have blown up the whole world by now.

    Second of all, lighten up everyone. Your not gonna change the world by punishing one fratdawg for saying he “slayed” someone. I work in a highly professional setting, where half of my office spends their off time reading “texts from last night”. You are all college students, you've all seen South Park, you've all probably cursed a couple of times in your years. That's life, get over it, people speak with vulgar words, its popular to do so. That's why we go to R-rated movies instead of watching teletubbies. If your so offended by it, then lock yourself in your dorm room and and watch some barney dvds, surely they won't offend you. People use these terms as a form of joking around, not as offensive action. Fraternities don't tell you how to speak, there's a thing called freedom of speech, so how bout you stop lecturing them on what they say.

    Last of all, Nick, way to go. You took an issue which was fully resolved months ago and spread gossip all over the school again, re-humiliating an unlucky individual who already paid for his actions. What's worse, you call yourself a reporter, but you missed half the story. You didn't even bother to mention how this email got sent out to all the administrators. Next time do your research.

    • Concerned student

      Being explicit, offensive, sexist, homophobic and even racist in one's speech is perfectly legal. Let us not debate the existence of the First Amendment. And let us also not debate what constitutes proper morality. Rather, let us focus on something that is very objective, namely the version of morality that the University has outlined, namely the often-cited 'Richmond promise.'

      And it is a violation of that promise, when a University sanctioned organization, namely Kappa Sigma, openly applauds its members' unsafe treatment of women. The moment Mr. Ayers, or his officials, had set eyes on the e-mails' text, they had no alternative but to discipline Kappa Sigma. For otherwise, it will have seemed that the University endorsed the views of its most controversial fraternity. With that said, one must then consider the punishment provided to Kappa Sigma. A month's probation lacks potency, and it appears that the University merely enforced the said disciplinary action as a matter of public relations bookkeeping.

      Now regarding your comment on Nick Mider's research:
      Mr. Mider did mention how the e-mail got sent out to the administrators. In fact, he cited the statement made by the 'unlucky individual' himself. Do your own research and read the 8th paragraph of his news report. Perhaps Mr. Mider ought to have cited all his sources, and perhaps he ought to have availed original statements from the e-mail sender and the prime recipients, but you have no right to question his journalistic integrity based on the pseudo-accusations you thought up.

  • confusedclassof08

    As an alum who quickly received the Kappa Sig email after it was mistakenly sent out, I have to say that I understand why it made it to the Collegian– it's interesting, it's gossip-worthy, it concerns our peers, and at a college-level– this is what often sells. To be honest I found it more funny than alarming; yes it's unfortunate that girls are often the topic of disgusting conversation in frat mail, but that’s college. While I wish that didn’t happen, it’ll take a lot more than a slap on the wrist and a few concerned UR staff members to change what’s been going on in nearly all fraternity emails for a long time (I say this based off of proof I’ve seen).

    However- the point of my email isn’t to repeat what’s been said above my own post. Instead, why in the world is a rendition of Texts from Last Night, shouting out ‘hos’ and being gay, alcoholism references, skeezas (a term for sluts, right up there slaying), hauling guys back to a girl’s ‘cave’ (hmm I wonder what that means?), and dressing up ‘over-slutty’ in the same paper as an article chastising the guy who sent an email out to his friends using a few derogatory references—as another post says, probably in jest? While I know that terms like these will only further add to societal issues blah blah blah, they honestly don’t bother me. I find it funny and sometimes talk like that amongst my own friends (even as an alum! Wow!) but seriously, editors of the Collegian—think twice before publishing an article about an email accidentally sent to our school President when you purposely publish this new Text Hall of Shame for the entire school community to read—what message are you trying to send here?

    • tiredofthisalreadyclassof2012

      I agree with confusedclassof08. It does seem to create a double standard of bashing an individual who sends out an inappropriate email; yet, the publishing of Text Hall of Shame gets no criticism. How about the homophobia exhibited in this week's Hall: “(443): two dudes made out in ur apartment last night. your gay now.” What about if someone had sent in one saying “a dude and girl made out in ur apartment last night, that makes you straight.” Instead, the collegian went along with publishing something that casts gays as an almost freak show items that deserve a spot light. Also, lets treat homosexuality as some form of contagion that has infected this apartment. Lets think about why this text was sent and not the other??

      The paper was nervous last year with the old email that referenced skeezas but felt that it was fine to put it in the Hall of Shame. Imagine if someone sent in a text saying “invite hot chicks we can club and haul back to our caves??” I'm sure then people would get pretty upset. These dont deserve the center fold of the paper, how about use that for some prime ad space? Then you could hopefully cut the size of paper down because all the articles are overly long and filled with fluf.

      Now to bash the UofR community, lets now think critically how all these chauvinistic, homophobic, racist, xenophobic, etc incidents at UofR occur. We all let the little things like “thats so gay” or “lets get some ass tonite” (as though a partner was a mere commodity) pass, yet we flip out on the big stuff. Imagine if we cut the issue off at the knees? No I cant either, that is way too easy. Instead it is just easier to be reactive and blame everyone but yourself.

      I would like to thank Nick for writing this article. I dont see why he couldnt write it. He never mentions the persons involved. It is all basic public knowledge. How about the fact that we all rush in to protect the guys because I mean “boys will be boys.” We should not expect better from the University of Richmond guys?? He is using a university service to spread stupid and harmful information and I sure dont support my tuition money going to that. I wonder if 'slayed girl' want her possible/boyfriend/rapist boyfriend/partner/rapist spreading her name through an email??

      I hope this is enough of a post to spur on a bunch of people to some screamin and hooting about this and that instead of people actually addressing how they personally add to the problem.

    • Concerned student

      So you're saying that the Collegian ought not to report on the morality of fraternity brothers just because it is an act of hypocrisy? Surely the Collegian severely compromised its integrity when the editors decided to publish the gossip that is The 'Text Hall of Shame.' But whether The Collegian is essentially a tabloid (or not) is irrelevant. For as a platform of free speech, it has every right to reveal to the public the kind of rhetoric, and perhaps the form of human demeanor, that is prevalent in Kappa Sigma. In fact, if I were a parent, I would be especially grateful to Nick Mider, for his report will have shed light, albeit dim light, on the kinds of perils that my daughter will be subject to in her attempts to socialize, or the kind of personality that my son would need to cultivate to fit in. Seeing as how this is family weekend in Richmond, I imagine that a lot of parents will share that sentiment. Would you rather have this kept from them?

  • WC_09

    Get your heads out of the sand, people. These boys aren't going to change; hell, they've probably sent out a hundred similar emails since that incident. And a month of social probation? OH NO!!! Man, you're really cracking down, Richmond. Those 3 or so forgone lodge parties will make ALL the difference, I'm sure. Please. This school is such a joke. Glad I got out when I did.

    The quote from Bisese I find particularly egregious: “…they really do take responsibility for trying to do the right thing for reputation, safety, and taking a part in policing themselves.” Oh really, Dean Bisese? Need you be reminded of last fall's email? There has clearly been a lot of self-policing since then! This is clearly a group of boys (not men) with extremely low class and standards who show no signs of improving their maturity or reputation anytime soon. And it cracks me up that Alison Keller acts like Greeks are people of the utmost integrity and honor. “These aren't the kind of people we want calling themselves fraternity men.” Don't worry, Mrs. Keller, the Greek system is so inherently flawed and appalling that my opinion of Greeks is low enough as it is. These boys aren't changing anything.

    Freshman WC girls- consider this your warning. These guys aren't going to change, and they're disgusting pigs. Do you really want your sexual encounters to be publicized in a weekly newsletter (yes, they have one. I've read it. It's sickening)? You're better than that. Seriously. There are plenty of other social outlets on this campus aside from the Kappa Sig lodge (and all of them smell better, I promise). Choose to associate with a more respectful bunch, or at the very least, frat boys who aren't so idiotic as to let their “top secret frat emails” get sent to the wrong people. And just for practical purposes, can you imagine the number of venereal diseases these boys must have?

    Freshman RC boys- though many of you may be actually intrigued by this badass frat who talks about slamming chicks and whatnot, do yourself a favor and join a different frat. They all slam chicks. And don't get me wrong, I'm well aware they all talk like this, but at least the other ones haven't been dumb enough (yet) to let their emails get in the wrong hands. Trust me, many of the people who will be interviewing you for full time jobs in the next few years are alumni. They hear about this kind of stuff. Even the ones who aren't alumni do- all they have to do is pick up a copy of the Collegian when they get to campus. They will be extremely unimpressed by those who list Kappa Sigma on their resume. I know this because one of my friends was interviewing for a full time job last year and the interviewer confronted him about the email. And guess what? He didn't get an offer.

    • Fact-Checker

      Actually, Kappa Sigma currently boasts a higher employment rate than any other Greek organization on campus. This isn't to say there is necessarily a correlation/causation factor between the two, but to suggest that joining this particular fraternity will result in a person being unemployed in simply fictitious. Generations of proud and successful Kappa Sigmas are wise enough to know that a few recent bad apples are not enough to erase a long legacy of great service in academics, service and in the professional world.

      If you are considering rushing a fraternity, I would suggest exploring all options on campus to see what each has to offer you. However, I would not suggest taking advice on how to enjoy college from a bitter and scornful “WC_09″ whose own almighty college experience has resulted in her sitting home on Friday evenings posting on her college newspaper website.

      Wah.

      • Todd the Bod

        As opposed to doing so on Saturdays, at noon?

  • Name

    Half these comments make me sick. I'm not going to sit here and tell you I know everyone in that fraternity on a close level, but I know a bunch very well – including the one who wrote the e-mail – who are really great guys and actually don't care about “slamming a skeeza” every hour. EVERY SINGLE FRATERNITY — and boys who aren't in them — speak EXACTLY like this and send e-mails like this — to be honest, it wasn't even that bad. Joining another fraternity will NOT solve the problem. So shut the f up and get a life of your own to talk about.

    • Not Name

      Speak for yourself, but don't assume every fraternity, and more specifically every RC student, acts in a behavior that is childish and immature. While you were on the right point about some comments exaggerating on the outrage, assuming that all students have the same concept of what is acceptable and then ending your comment cursing those that do not agree with you goes against your main arguement of not judging the students involved in this incident. You can't have it both ways, otherwise you become a hypocrite telling others not to judge while following up with your own concept of how students act and how everyone else has no life..

  • Who Cares

    Let's get some stuff straight. The kind of talk the individual used in this email was A)commonplace in today's society and B) not malicious in intent. So whats the big deal? The university for some reason feels compelled to regulate behavior. I think some administrators would be astounded by the kind of behavior that happens in a lodge or a good apartment party, so this absurd probation on Kappa Sig just shows how out of touch they are with the realities of college life. Do they raelly think that the frat is just going to not do anything fun for a month? No, they'll proabably bring some girls who call themselves skeezas over to their off campus house, drink beers out of kegs and drive home drunk. Come on UR!!!

    • Think about it…

      Don't assume the administration is unaware of what occurs inside college, remember the faculty were once college students as well and no matter how different you think today's culture is from the past, they are fully aware of the 'actions' that occur on campus. The catch is that the campus admin turns a blind eye to these activities as long as the fraternities and students keep it safe, under control, and most of all quiet. The email was sent with kappa sig tagged, therefore the admin acted because the silence was broken. If the university was compelled to regulate behavior, they would have focused on no drinking or drug abuse and abstinence education rather than teach 'safe' drinking and drug habits and promote safe sex practices. The university admin knows the frat will continue their activities, they just don't want to 'officially' hear about them or they will act, hence the email scandal.

  • aekdb

    Cossa strikes again.

  • Mihir

    Seniors Rule. Minus Sucks!

  • Name

    i blame goats. for this AND for creating the sahara desert.

    • Mayonnaise

      I concur. Also, I circle thang.

  • Deevo

    As a former (or, rather, lifelong – sorry Goat) Kappa Sigma I would recommend you guys trim the fat. Let this kid go. He is obviously an idiot. Not necessarily because of the content of the email, no. But look, in my day, we were not stupid enough to send emails outside of the Fraternity. You guys have done it twice in a year. What the hell happened to the Beta Beta Brothers? Consider my donation postponed.

  • Buffy

    Frankly, I find the term “slay” in reference to bedding women an insult to my profession.

  • Real question

    Something really struck me in both the comments and the article itself:
    Do students of UR truly think of themselves as “boys” and “girls” as opposed to men and women?

    Not sure if it is the chicken or the egg, but you guys are orbiting around the two decade mark. Maybe it is time to think a little more of yourself?

  • Cletus Akin

    You guys are lame. Back in my day, all us Kappa Sigs did was the three Bs. Figure it out. That, and hit the gym. Everyday. Upper body. Every time. Ask me when we do lower body. Never, that's when.

  • av6db

    This isn't an individual problem or a fraternity problem (although lodge parties tend to epitomize it). This is a cultural and societal problem on college campuses. Unfortunately this language is “commonplace in today's society,” but that doesn't mean that it should be or that we should resign ourselves to vulgarity and the consistent degradation of women. This also isn't a problem that Westhampton women can fix on their own. Concerned Richmond men also need to stand up against this kind of behavior. I hope that all of this talking eventually results in concrete action on campus and that Greek and non-Greek men alike begin to show more respect for their female peers.